- Published: 24 July 2016
- Written by Online Correspondent
Ah, discussing se_x with women is quite an interesting experience. Just the other day, I asked one of my girl friends what she secretly wants her man to do to her in bed. Her reply was not what I expected. She basically had a list of errors.
"Well, he never kisses me when we make love. I hate that. Then there's the fact that he rarely, if ever, goes down on me. And if that's not terrible enough, he's done before I even get wet."
Yeah, enough with the whining already, I'm certain he has his own list as well, although I would never tell her that. Nevertheless, that's when I realized that perhaps I should word the question a little differently.
"No," I said, "what I mean is, do you have a secret se_xual desire that you wish he could just telepathically pick up on?" And that's when the conversation intensified...
5. Get Aggressive In Bed
Just about every woman I encountered had the words "more aggressive se_x" rolling off her tongue. From being tied up and spanked to having their hair pulled and being mildly asphyxiated, the women were quite enthusiastic about aggressive se_x.
Of course, I'm not implying that you should go home and smack your b!tch up, but instead, maybe a little roughing in the bedroom can work wonders for your se_x life. And if that's not enough, these women didn't simply want their men to be more aggressive; they wanted to, on occasion, be the aggressor.
4. Curse Like A Sailor
In the spirit of being vocal, believe it or not, dirty talk was mentioned quite often. But it wasn't the flowery variety; the talk that many women wanted was downright nasty. I guess tame bedroom antics went out with everlasting marriages.
The colorful language they were using had these women blushing, but their candidness was much appreciated. Of course, I can't write any of it here without being censored, but I'm certain you can use your imagination on this one.
Ah, fanta$ies, the beauty of them lies in the fact that many are not realized. But as one woman put it: "I am tired of being that precious lady in the bedroom. I'm tired of 'making love' and doing things gently all the time. I want him to have raunchy se_x with me and talk to me as though he just met me and cares nothing about what I want. I want him to ravish me like an animal and tell me to be quiet whenever I try to say something." Wow!
I guess, in the end, there are plenty of women who want to be, for lack of a better word, slu_tty in the bedroom. They simply fear that if they behave in such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently outside the bedroom as well. All the same, many women are big fans of scenarios such as the one described.
2. Longer, More Vocal Oral se_x
Whether it's for you or her, women want a whole lot more of oral se_x. To my surprise, many women were keen on performing for their men as well (many in hopes of reciprocation). What they secretly wanted was directions. Now I don't mean "no, no left, now a little to the right, now go up, down, up, down, oh yeah," but rather describing how and why you like it when she's down there. And noise; women secretly want to hear you making all kinds of pleasant noises that assure them that they're doing a good, uh, job.
Now, on to your deeds down there. What do women secretly want? They want you to get deep down in there with your mouth, use your fingers, and when necessary, penetrate her with your p3nis for a little while, and then get busy again with your mouth.
1. Focus On Her Entirely
It may sound like less of a fant.asy and more of a se_x tip, but a lot of women want their men to focus on their entire bodies. "I want him to l!ck and kiss everything from my ankles to the small of my back. I want him to arouse sensations that come from somewhere other than my vag!na," said one woman.
Maybe spending a little time on her inner thigh or kissing her wrist is not such a bad idea. And by doing so, she will likely do it to you as well, and who knows, maybe penetration will take a backseat to sensation.