- Published on 27 July 2016
- Written by Staff Reporter
Dear Zimbabwean community,
I'm a 35-year-old man and have been in a relationship with my wife for the past nine years. We got married in 2010. She had a good sex drive when I met her but since our daughter was born in 2014, she's become cold. No more kissing, less sex and even when we're in bed she just wants to sleep.
I've tried several times to talk to her but she pushes me away, so I get sex outside our marriage because she always has excuses. I don't know what to do. Please Zimbabwe help me.
It's commendable that you want to save your marriage. Have you tried talking to your wife about why her behaviour changed? You said this started after she had a baby. Childbirth can be very traumatic for some women as they sometimes associate the pain of childbirth with sex, and start to loathe making love.
There might also be medical reason for this change. Talk to her about going for a medical check-up and possibly counselling, too. And continue giving her your support, instead of having sex outside your marriage and cheating.