Dear Aunty Lisa
I have been married for 11 years and have a 6-year-old son. The equation between my husband and I has changed a lot.
We are cordial with each other, but there is no real communication and we haven't had a physical relationship in 5 years.
Earlier, he used to say he was stressed with work and that we would have se_x again after I got a new job. He is very ambitious, but I feel as if I have no value for him as a person.
Even before our son was born, he was never really interested. I would have made my peace with not having se_x, had he put it in a way that was less harsh. Se_x is just one aspect of it.
What hurts me most is not being able to tell him anything. We were very close when we were dating, but he doesn't even want to discuss anything other than our son.
I feel disgusted with myself, or maybe he makes me feel that way. Am I over reacting? He is not going to visit a marriage counsellor or therapist because he thinks there is absolutely nothing wrong except me not finding a job. What should I do?