Dear Aunty Lisa
I love my boyfriend a lot, and I know he loves me too. We are each other’s first partners and have been together for more than three years.
I have told him we should take our relationship to the next stage and have se_x, but he is old-school; he says we should wait till our wedding because he wants that old, sweet feeling of taking a new bride to bed.
We have just gone so far as second base — he always stops us before it intensifies. Does it sound weird to you?
Sometimes I wonder if he is just not attracted to me or if he is insecure about the relationship. Or am I reading too much into this and should be grateful?