Dear Aunty Lisa
I know this sounds silly, but my girlfriend wants se_x every day and I do not always feel like having se_x. I just don't. Some times I want to express inti_macy without se_x.
But as much as we discuss it, and as much as she says she "understands", she still presses for se_x and when she doesn't get it says she feels "rejected."
I try to explain that if we have se_x Friday and Saturday, but I don't feel like it on Sunday, then you really aren't being rejected, but she won't listen. In fact, every time I try to express how I feel about it, she starts to cry which I am beginning to suspect is a subtle form of manipulation to get me to acquiesce.
She says that I am rejecting her because I don't want to "be with her" when I don't think that being with her is absolutely reliant on se_xual intimacy. I'm not sure what to think.
I don't know what to do. She is the love of my life but I can't keep having the same argument every two weeks for the rest of my life.