Dear Aunty Lisa
My husband of 15 years is 18 years older than me.
For the last five years we’ve not had se_xual relations. At 67 he’s no longer interested in it –with me or anyone else.
We’ve discussed this but it makes him feel uncomfortable and guilty that he’s “denying” me.
Our marriage is otherwise satisfying and loving. I don’t want to leave him because of se_x, but my needs aren’t met and I’m struggling.
Should I take a lover on the side? Should I drag him to therapy? Should I forget about se_x altogether? At 47, I’m supposed to be peaking.
I feel as if anything I do or don’t do could endanger our relationship.