Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a 40-year-old businessman living in Harare. I have been married for 12 years now and my wife, Joy, and I have four children but I want to send her out of my house for causing me so much embarrassment, disgrace, and mental torture.
In the past, I have had cause to suspect my wife of infideIity though I had never caught her red handed. Some of my friends and even her sister had told me that they saw her with other men but since I had not caught her myself, I always gave her the benefit of doubt.
But last month, her secret was blown open when she was caught having se_x with a neighbour by the man’s wife.
On the day it happened, she had told me she was down with fever and could not go to her shop. I took the children to their lesson since it was holiday period and left for my business. But around 10am, my neighbour called me, telling me to come home immediately.
I did not know why he wanted me to come home, but I had to hurry home, especially when he refused to tell me the reason for the call.
My initial thought was that Joy may have developed some complications and was rushed to hospital.
So I got into my car and drove at breakneck speed to the house. As I tried to enter the gate to our big yard, I noticed many people inside, all shouting at the top of their voices. My fear increased on seeing the crowd, praying that nothing should happen to my wife.
But on alighting from the car, I met the most agonizing sight when I saw my wife and the male tenant nak_ed in the midst of the excited crowd. I made my way into the crowd and asked what happened and was told that my wife was caught having se_x with the man by his wife.
They were shepherded out nake_d and paraded in public. It was as if the ground should open and swallow me. I covered my face in shame and begged the people to let her go.
I still cannot believe she could do such a thing to me after all the love I showed her.
Since the incident, she has been pleading that I forgive her; even our family and church members have been pleading on her behalf but I don’t think I can live with her any longer.
What should I do?