Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 22 years old, and I am having a very serious problem. I am a Christian, and when I was 19, I became friendly with a man who helped me in school.
I was having sex with him every week, and then I went to a crusade and turned over my life to the Lord. My boyfriend picked me up after the meeting, and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him that I had just gone to the altar, so I couldn’t have sex with him. He asked what altar I was talking about, and I told him.
The next night, he told me not to go back to the altar because he couldn’t have me going to that place because he wanted to continue having sex with me. I told him that I wanted to serve the Lord. I told him that we should get married and that would prevent me from committing fornication.
We planned a very small wedding. When I told my father that I was going to get married, he told me that if I would wait, he would pay for my reception. I love my father, but I told him that I couldn’t wait. He told me to go ahead, and he wished me well.
I went ahead and got married in a very private ceremony. My parents did not attend the wedding. After I got married, I got baptised. I did not have a honeymoon. After one year, my husband started to change. Sometimes I have to beg him to have sex with me. This is a man who used to like to have sex three times per week. Now sometimes for two weeks, we don’t have sex. I put on the sexiest lingerie and he won’t even look at me. I am fretting because I am wondering if he is having an affair.
I have a twin sister, and I tell her everything. I told her that my husband is not even looking at me. She asked him why he is treating me that way, and he said, too much sex is not good for him. He is 41 years old. He said my church has spoiled me.
What do you suggest I do?