Dear Aunty Lisa
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. Not a single year has passed without him cheating on me with the same woman.
She is our colleague, so it’s impossible to avoid. She was also a close friend of his and has supported him on many occasions, which makes me feel guilty for even suggesting that he break off all contact with her.
Every time they resume contact, he cheats on me. He always says he is doing it so that she doesn’t feel bad.
I have now turned into this person who is stressed and wary of his actions. He has promised to change, but I can’t start trusting him yet.
He is very caring, and I love him a lot, but I don’t want to be in the way if he wants to be with someone else. He repeatedly says he doesn’t want to.
What do I do to bring that calm and balance back into our relationship?