Dear Aunty Lisa
I always read your column, but this is my first time writing to you. I am in my 30s and I have been dating a guy of my age for a couple of years now. He is a great guy.
He works hard and tries to provide for us. We do not have children, but he is always talking about getting children.
We have been trying, but no luck as yet. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get pregnant, because I have done things in my younger years that may hinder me from getting pregnant.
Aunty, I am also seeing an older man who lives in the UK. We met almost two years ago when I travelled to the UK. This man is also a good man. Both men treat me well.
The overseas man knows I’m seeing someone, but my boyfriend in Zimbabwean does not know about the older man.
This older man would like me to come and live with him, get married and be with him. I’m seriously considering this offer.
This could mean that I could help my family and myself much more than I am doing now. I have spent time with this man at his home before, so I know he’s a good man.
The thing that I am worried about is how this would affect my Zimbabwean boyfriend. I love him and he loves me too, but I also love the other man.
I don’t want to hurt any of them, but whichever one I chose, someone will get hurt. I know I can have a good life with either of these men, so I don’t know what to do. I am awaiting your response.