Dear Aunty Lisa
How does a girl handle this problem that I would like to talk to you about? I am 26 years old and I have one daughter. My parents went to South Africa for a few weeks. My father is a businessman and while he was there, the person who was in charge of his business called him and related a problem to him. So, my father decided that he will come back to Zimbabwe.
I have my own place, but since my parents were away and I have a key to the house, I visit there from time to time. My father said that he was trying to reach me by cell to ask me to pick him up at the airport, but he was not getting through. So he asked one of his workers to pick him up.
My child’s father had planned to come and spend the weekend with me. I knew when he was coming. I put my daughter to bed and turned off my phone because I did not want to be disturbed. My boyfriend had a key to the door. When he came, I was asleep. I was in the nude, quite ready for him. He does not like me to sleep in underwear. We made love and I fell asleep again. He fell asleep as well.
HE CAUGHT US
In the middle of the night, I realised that someone had entered the house. I touched him and he did not move. I woke him up and said someone is in the house. He came out in his nude to face my father. When he realised it was my father, he rushed back into the room and told me. I put on some clothes and went out to the living room, and my father was not pleased. I have apologised to my father many times, but he says that I should not bring my boyfriend to have sex with me into his house.
I have been doing my best to make up with my father. I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has apologised to him also, and he told him that he did not mean to be disrespectful to him and it wouldn’t happen again.
My father is not saying much, except to say that the man should not be having sex with me in his house. And I should not have had my phone off. My boyfriend and my father always got along. Now he doesn’t even ask for him.