Dear Aunty Lisa
This is the first time I am writing to you as I am having a problem. I read your column every day.
My husband says that sometimes you are one-sided. He says that you take up a lot for the women. I told him you are fair.
These men can’t stand the truth, and when you talk the truth they get upset.
I have been married for two years now. We don’t have children together. I have to beg my husband for money. On Saturdays when I need money to go to the supermarket, we always get into an argument.
He does not give me more than RTGS$50. I told him that RTGS$50 cannot buy much, and he says it is only the two of us. I am sure my husband eats more than RTGS$50 in three days. He is a big eater.
When I fuss, he says I should contribute the rest of money. He has an outside child and he gives the mother RTGS$100 every two weeks.
She is threatening to take him to court. He says he is going to file for custody. I asked him where he was going to take the child and he said to our house.
I told him no way. She is just jealous; she wanted him to marry her.
I have a good job and my husband has a good job. We are saving to buy a home. When I got married, my husband was not saving anything. I insisted that he should show me his payslip.
Now I know that he is saving. He wants us to buy a stand and build a house in Seke and travel to Harare everyday to work. I am not a country girl; I don’t like living in rural areas.
I want to know how to get my husband to change.