Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 19 years old, and I am concerned about my mother. My mother is cheating on my father. She does not know that I know. My mother has her own car, and she has a good job. One day I left school early. I tried to get her on the cell phone to tell her that I was coming to stay with her and would go home with her. Her phone ran without an answer, and then it went to voicemail. I left a message, but she didn’t reply. I decided that I would still go to her workplace.
When I got there, her secretary told me that my mother had gone out, but would be back. I told her that I knew, because I saw her car in the parking lot. I was there for an hour and a half. I kept looking out, and I saw a car drive up. She came out of the car. She was so surprised when she saw me. I told her that I was trying to call her, and she said that she was discussing business with the man who took her out. I asked her what business and she said, “business, I will tell you later on.” I am 19 years old, and I know what a woman can do. I am young, but I have friends and we talk.
My father is away. I know what I did was not right. I have never done it before, but Aunty, I searched my mother’s phone. What I saw shocked me. I saw messages in there from a man to my mother, and I suspected that this was the same man she went out with. I did not know that my mother would cheat on my father. He has been a good father and a good husband. The man even explained in the text where he and my mother could meet to have sex, and she responded in the affirmative. I know I cannot keep this to myself. I am sharing it with you. I have lost respect for my mother.
These days, whenever my mother tells me anything, I don’t even listen to her. I have not told my father what has happened. I only told him on the phone that I had something to tell him, and he said he would hear when he comes.
Please, give me your advice.