Dear Aunty Lisa
I'm 37 and I'm married. My husband is 22 years older than me. When I met him I was living with my sis. I wasn't happy there so I decided to move out of her house. I honestly didn't love my hubby, but we had se_x and I got pre_gnant, and because I was in the church and he was not, we decided to get married.
We ended up having 2 kids. The last one is not so well. He was diagnosed with seizure disorder. We went through a lot with him. I ended up working in the tobacco industry. I employed a housegirl to take care of our kids, while my mom would look over them from time to time. My husband started sleeping with the housegirl. I asked him about it and he denied it.
Aunty, I honestly can't say I was perfect, because I also had an affair with my immediate boss at the tobacco company. I fired the maid because she lied, but my husband confessed to my aunt about what he did, not knowing that she was my aunt. My husband started to call me names and we fought a lot.
I wasn't happy with him, so I moved to my parents' home with my 2 children. My husband begged me to return. It has been five years now since I moved out, but now I'm trying to go back. I still don't love him, but I miss having my own place, miss being a wife, and having my family. He feels he wants his family back, too.
I'm trying to fix the house, so it is now under construction. My son was badly hurt by him. He said he does not want to return. I really want my own place, pastor. My name is on the land title. Do you think I'm making the right decision by going back or spending money to repair the house? My mom said I should not go back, but I should do the right thing in the Lord's sight.