Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 35 years old and my husband is 40. I am a doctor living and working in Walvis Bay, Namibia. My husband was never interested in living in Namibia. He is gainfully employed by NGOs in Zimbabwe. So I go to Zimbabwe as often as possible. When I am not on duty at nights, I speak to my husband for a long time. Sometimes he would say to me, “OK, it’s time for you to go to bed.”
We do not have kids and, although we have been married for 7 years, every time I go to see him it is like our honeymoon all over again.
Aunty, I went to Harare, suddenly, to give my husband a surprise. When I got to the Robert Gabriel Mugabe International Airport, I called and told him to come and pick me up. He came. I did not think of anything bad. When it was time for us to go to bed and I lifted up the pillow, I was shocked to see a woman’s underwear. I asked whose underwear it was. He said he wasn’t aware it was there but it could belong to one of his daughters who lives in Bulawayo, came up to do an interview and had slept on the bed.
I knew right away that he was lying because he started to become unsettled. We have a spare bedroom so his daughter would not have slept in our room. While I was there pondering, he went outside and was on his phone, calling his daughter and telling her what to say if I should call her. That night I refused to sleep with my husband.
I started to investigate and asked the part-time maid if any woman came by there. She told me yes but I should not let him know.
Aunty, the woman who is fooling around my husband is my best friend who is a well-known socialite and businesswoman in Harare. I confronted my husband and called my friend, but she denied it. When I told her that she forgot to take up her underwear, she said it wasn’t hers. I refused to give up the underwear. I have it as proof that my husband and this woman were having an affair.
I don’t want to lose my hubby. I told him I would forgive him but he would have to come clean. Even when I left Zimbabwe, he would not tell me What should I do?