Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 21 years old and I am having a problem with my man. He is 27 years old and he does not believe that for the last two years I have not had se_x. I lost my virg_inity when I was 18, and it happened with a man I did not love. He was much older than me and he took me out one night to buy Nandos. We then went to a nearby club and sat down.
He ordered two beers. I told him that I had never had beer and he said that it would not hurt me, so I drank half of it. Before we left, he said that I should drink the rest so I drank it.
I then found myself at his house. He had his own room that he was renting. I begged him not to have se_x with me because I was a virg_in. He said he always wanted to have se_x with a virg_in. I don't know what happened to me, but I fell asleep. I slept for about two hours. When I woke up, I felt him f0ndling me until I gave up and we had se_x.
He used a cond0m, so I was not worried about getting preg_nant. I never went out with him again because I did not expect him to force me to have se_x with him.
I had to lie to the people I was living with. This guy gave me US$100 before he took me home. I told him that I didn't want anything to do with him again. I changed my number.
Now, there is this man who is in my church. We like each other. He is in charge of praise and worship. I refused to have se_x with him, but he has some strange beliefs. He told me that he believes that we have to pray before we have se_x. I asked him what would the prayer do and he says that he has to give thanks for everything. I told him that that is weird and he said that it is not weird to him.
So I have decided to ask you, if a couple is married and they are about to have se_x, whether they should pray.