Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a 40-year-old married woman, living with my husband and three kids. I want to keep this short so I cannot get into much details. All was going well until I decided to go online to meet new friends. One day I sent an email inviting a man to chat, we exchanged WhatsApp numbers.
After some of months, we met at KFC Joina City in Harare CBD and immediately there were sparks. We have been in touch since then, meeting ever so often and making plans of getting married and stuff like that even though he is married and so am I. This is no joke. I cannot eat nor do anything without thinking about this handsome and rich man. He has become my life, so to speak, and I know he feels the same way about me too.
The thing is my husband found out and I thought he would chase me and ask for a divorce, which I would be happy for, but, instead, he loves me more than ever. He is a civil servant.
Even though when he found out, he almost died. I don’t love my husband anymore. I hate having se_x with him. All I want is to be with this other man. He drives beautiful cars and takes me out for braai on Saturdays. I am dying here. I want to leave but my husband has been good and I don’t know how to tell him. This will kill him.
Aunty, I need your advice. I am old enough. I know the right thing, but the right thing doesn’t make me happy anymore. The truth is I am not even sure if I will follow your advice if it’s not what I am hoping for, but nonetheless, please, advise me.