I am 42 years old and my husband is 44. We are having problems. When we were having children, life was very hard.
I was working, but at one time, my husband lost his job and he suggested to me that he go to South Africa to look for work.
I did not agree. I told him that we should stay in Zimbabwe and ‘eat vegetable and potatoes’ together.
Things got very hard and we lost our house. Following that, we lost our car. We couldn’t find money for the children to go to school.
A friend in South Africa told me that she could help me to get a job. I told her I did not want to leave my job, but she could help my husband to get a job because he was willing to come.
She said that she would talk to her husband, but her husband and herself were having issues.
Two weeks after, she called me back and told me that my husband could come. We were excited, so off he went. He got a job and he sent money home every week.
He was up there for 4 months, and during his time, my girlfriend of many years took him over and they started to have an affair.
He was not supposed to be living there, but he was living there without my knowledge. Her husband called me and told me that he went to the house and caught my husband and his wife red-handed having se_x.
And when his wife saw him, she said, “You are not supposed to come here without informing me,” and he told them that he would call me and tell me what he saw.
My husband has admitted it, but I can’t get over it because I have been faithful to him all these years we have been married, and I believed he was faithful to me until he went to South Africa.
He told me that if I wanted him to come home, he would come.
My friend is not talking to me. Every time I call and try to talk to her, she is busy and she says she will call me back.
My heart is full. I can’t let any of the children know what their daddy has done.