Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a 35-year-old married woman, living with my husband and three kids in Zimbabwe. I want to keep this short so I cannot get into the details. All was going well until I decided to go on Facebook to meet new friends. I never got involved rather than making funny jokes, discussing the daily things happening around us etc. One day I sent a message inviting a man to chat. We later exchanged WhatsApp numbers.
After a couple of months, we met and immediately there were sparks. We have been in touch since then, meeting ever so often and making plans of getting married and stuff like that even though he is married and so am I. This is no joke. I cannot eat nor do anything without thinking about this man. He has become my life, so to speak, and I know he feels the same way about me too.
The thing is my husband found out and I thought he would chase me and ask for a divorce, which I would be happy for, but, instead, he loves me more than ever.
Even though when he found out, he almost died. I don’t love my husband anymore. I hate having se_x with him. All I want is to be with this other man. I am dying here. I want to leave, but my husband has been good and I don’t know how to tell him. This will kill him.
I need your advice. I am old enough. I know the right thing, but the right thing doesn’t make me happy anymore. The truth is I am not even sure if I will follow your advice if it’s not what I am hoping for, but, nonetheless, please, advise me.