Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 25 years old and I am having a problem. I read your column often and I can see that you are a good person, so I am running this problem by you.
I am feeling miserable right now. I have one daughter and I am living with a man who is not my daughter’s father. My daughter’s father doesn’t support her. I have been living with this man for one and half years. When I met him I wasn’t working, but I just got a job. I promised this man that I will be true to him, but I don’t love him.
Here is my problem. I owed some money and my boyfriend wasn’t able to give me the money to pay off these people. All he is able to give me is shelter and food, and he pays ZESA and water bills.
I decided that I must get this money, so one day (Thursday) I got dressed in a very provocative way and went to the store. I didn’t have any money to shop, but I saw men and I fli_rted with them and in one day, I made three dates. Only one of them did not want to come to my house to pick me up. By weekend I had ZW$5 000.
For three days straight, I had se_x with three different men, and I told all of them the same story, but the story was true. I told them that I am living with a man but I am in debt, and my man doesn’t have the money to give me. Two of the men gave me ZW$2 000 each and the other ZW$1 000. All these men were businessmen.
Aunty, I know you are going to say that I am a bad girl. I feel bad but at the same time, I feel relieved. I paid my debt. After having se_x each time with these men in a very popular hotel, I took a taxi home. I told them not to contact me, I will contact them.
The guy who gave me ZW$1 000 wanted me to do everything. Some of the things he asked me to do, I have never done and because I told him I have never done these things, he only gave me the ZW$1 000.
My boyfriend thinks that I still need the money, so I don’t want to make him any wiser. Somebody who knows me and knows my boyfriend told him about the way I was dressed and that I looked like a pr0stitute. He asked me about it and I denied it. As I said, I don’t love him. The man who gave me the ZW$1 000 wants me to come and live with him and he would help to send my child to school.
My friend, who is very helpful to me, told me that I should go and live with him. I will get accustomed to doing what he wants me to do. I don’t want to take my child’s father to court.