Dear Aunty Lisa
Last year I found out that my husband of 15 years had been having an affair for a few months. It came as a terrible shock – I cried and cried for weeks.
When asked to choose between her and me, he chose her and left me. I kept on crying. Eight months after this revelation, I met someone and fell in love. This was a lifesaving event. Suddenly I could endure the pain of my husband’s betrayal. I felt alive and young again.
Now, my husband wants me back. He sees me happy and free from him, which of course is more attractive than a lamenting woman. He is still with his girlfriend and is probably worried to leave her in case I don’t take him back. I am torn. I’m happy with my new lover, especially se_xually, but I also long for the relationship I had with my husband. He remains my best friend and we have so much in common.
I don’t know whether I can trust or make love to him again and I don’t know what his real motives are. Does he want me back because the grass isn’t greener or because he really loves me? But most importantly, I don’t know what I want. How do I find out?