Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 25 years old, and I am having a problem. I have been going with a guy since I was 18. He was the first man for me. He took my virg_inity. He became a part of my family. Everybody in my family loves him. He is a very helpful man. He has a fairly good education. He treats me well.
When I was going to college, he gave me all the support I needed. We have one child together. We got engaged two years ago. I made a big mistake and I admitted it to him. Now he is telling me that he doesn’t want me in his life anymore. I did something I never thought I would do. The company I work with organised a retreat, and I had to attend. It was just from Friday to Sunday.
One of the guys at my workplace, who likes me and I like him too, attended the seminar. Satan got into my head. This guy and I went out, and we had too much to drink. I wasn’t drunk. I knew what I was doing, but I couldn’t resist this guy. At work, I have ignored him. He has a way of sending roses for me, but I always remind him that I have a man.
I am in such trouble now because as soon as I got back, my fiancé heard that I went out with this guy. All he kept asking me was “did you have se_x with him?”, and finally I said: “Yes, but it wasn’t for long.”
He said: “All right, I am not going to hit you, but we have to part.” I have never gone on my knees to beg a man, but I went down on my knees for him to forgive me and to give me another chance, but he wouldn’t.
To make matters worse, he went and told my parents what happened and my father cursed me. My mother begged him to forgive me, but my father said that he should leave me and let the man I had se_x with take care of me.
Aunty, this man gave me a beautiful diamond engagement ring. He told me that I can keep everything that he has given me except the engagement ring. He wants it back. I asked him what would he do with it and he said he will keep it, but I should not wear it. This ring means so much to me. I still love this man. He doesn’t believe that, but I do. What can you do for me? I find myself unable to sleep. I just can’t stop crying.