Dear Aunty Lisa
I’m having a dilemma over my ex-boyfriend who married someone else five months ago. During the run-up to the wedding, he didn’t contact me, but he got back in touch recently and we agreed to meet.
Before his marriage we were together for four years, but his family wanted him to marry this other girl, even though he tried really hard to stop it going ahead.
Now he wants us to be friends with benefits.
This is where my dilemma comes in because I still have feelings for him, even though I know it would be crossing a line and he would be cheating on his new wife.
The thing is, his family is very important to him and he wants to keep everyone happy, and I’m not blaming him for anything.
I understand my feelings for him are wrong, but I can’t stop thinking about him and, although he’s moved on, I don’t want to move on and make a fresh start with anyone else.
I’m very confused about whether to continue a relationship with him – I know it won’t lead anywhere.