Dear Aunty Lisa
My boyfriend of five months and I have a decent relationship. We have fun and trust and care about each other.
However, I realized recently that he is seriously lacking in hygiene. He tried to cover it up when we first started dating but after going on vacation last week, all the puzzle pieces are coming together.
His place is a complete mess, there is hair all over his bathroom floor plus sink, and he has never mopped the floor.
Worse is his personal hygiene. I finally realized he hasn’t washed his towels or bedsheets since we met. He showers only a few times a week, brushes only once a day using a disgusting toothbrush, doesn’t wash his hands after going to the toilet (even pooping), and has been rotating through the same pairs of freaking underwear for the last I don’t know how many months. He even sleeps with it. Is this normal among boys?
As far as personal hygiene goes, I have to admit, I haven’t talked to him about it because I don’t want to come off as trying to control him. What should I do?