Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a regular reader of Ask Aunty column on the website www.myzimbabwe.co.zw. I went to an all-girls’ high school, and as girls, we would read and discuss what you wrote. I remember someone writing to you about seeing her period for the first time. Her mother didn’t tell her that she should expect her period or tell her what she should do.
One day, her period came while she was in class. The teacher was a male, and he asked her what the problem was because he saw that something was wrong. She told him that her foot was cut. He knew she was lying. He called one of the female teachers, and she took her and helped her.
Most of the girls said that nobody had told them about their period, but one of the girls said that she grew up with her father, and he told her that she should expect that to happen and bought pads for her and showed her how to use them. Her father was a real father. But more than that, he showed her all the things that a mother should show a daughter.
Aunty, I have learnt a lot from you. Keep up the good work. I have become a teacher, and you have been very helpful to me in many ways. I have one boy and one girl. I have never met you, but I would love to.
Although my mother didn’t talk about se_x when I was growing up, she would walk in the house only in her underwear. My young brothers were there, but nobody would think that it was wrong for her to do.
My children are five and two years old, and the only time I am in my underwear is when I am in my bedroom. My husband doesn’t like when I sleep in underwear unless one of the children is sleeping with us. I didn’t like to sleep without underwear when we first got married, but now, I am accustomed to it. It is not strange anymore.