Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a 29-year-old woman who has been dating two guys.
The first one is smart, funny, cute, kind and financially stable. His father is a rich and powerful politician.
I’ve felt so lucky to have found him. Here’s the problem: We recently became intimate for the first time, and he is, unfortunately, very poorly endowed—so small that I did some Internet searching and think he might have a micro pen_is.
I believe that se_x is crucial to a relationship, and the thought of having a (potentially lifelong) relationship without an active se_x life scares me.
When you can’t feel anything during the act, that’s a problem. I know that there are other options in the bedroom, but I get pleasure by doing it the old-fashioned way. I feel awful about this—it’s obviously something that he can’t help, and it slays me that the universe would be so unjust to such a wonderful person.
I’m conflicted. I see a potential future with him in every other way, but how do I deal with this? He is really good with his hands, so he thinks that as long as he’s giving me 0rgasms his size doesn’t matter — but it’s starting to.
For me, 0rgasms aren’t everything. Sometimes it’s difficult to feel him, and I like a sensation of fullness.
Do women who marry very poorly endowed men end up regretting it? If I let him go, what should I tell him that won’t absolutely crush him?
On the other hand, the other guy I’m seeing on the side is a civil servant. He’s poor but has a very big peni_s and is really good in bed. There’s an intense se_xual chemistry between us, very primal and instinctive. He comes around and we jump into bed.
I’m trying to go with my head and focus on the first guy, because this could be a relationship with legs. At the same time, when he’s not there, I can’t help reaching for my phone and asking the one with a big joystick to come around. I don’t want a relationship with him – at least I think I don’t. But the se_x is so good. What should I do? I am in a dilemma.