Hie Aunty Lisa
I’m a 29-year-old woman and have been in an on and off relationship with my boyfriend for six good years.
He’s a great educated guy – stable, sensible, steady, and caring but he’s still looking for a job. I’ve felt more and more that something is missing from the relationship, hence the break-ups and make-ups.
Although I love him and care about him, he doesn’t excite me, and our relationship can feel dull a lot of the time.
At the end of last year I started to get close to a sugardad I met at Jongwe at the braai stand when I went there with my boyfriend and he’s the polar opposite – exciting, se_xy, passionate, spontaneous – and I’ve really fallen for him.
Since Covid-19 lockdown has eased, we’ve seen each other a lot and the lula lula (se_x) is fantastic.
He comes with baggage, though – he’s 15 years older and is divorced with two kids.
My boyfriend and I decided to take a break from each other to think about our relationship, but I don’t know what to do. I have missed him and I know he’s right on paper, but the prospect of going back into that relationship doesn’t thrill me at all.
My sugardad on the other hand, provides lots of passion and excitement, but I don’t know if he’s a long-term prospect. The reason his marriage ended was down to him cheating with another woman.
I’m kind of living in the moment and enjoying it, but can’t help this nagging fear about a future with a guy who seems to have commitment issues.