Dear Aunt Lisa
I am a 38 year old married man. My wife is 40. We have been together for 10 years. We have 2 children.
My wife is a good woman and I believe I am a loving husband. Here is my problem: One day I caught her chatting with her ex lover on WhatsApp. I then discovered that she has occasional conversations with him and it bothers me.
Before I married her, she told me that she and Prince (Not his real name) were friends from college and the three of us even met for lunch once at Nandos Avondale. When I asked her if Prince was an old boyfriend she said no.
About a year and half later, she admitted to me that before she and I met, she had a se_xual relationship with Prince. I asked her why she lied and told me that Prince wasn’t an old boyfriend.
She said that she didn’t lie because she never loved Prince (although he’s the one who broke her virgi_nity), they were just friends with benefits. Now she says she and Prince are just friends (without benefits) and that she would never cheat on me.
Should I believe her?
But since she slept with him before when they weren’t in love, I don’t like her talking to him now. I need your advice aunty.