Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 31 years old, and for the last three years, I have been dating. But now, I don’t know what to do because I recently found out some things about my lover. I knew she had a child before we met. That was not an issue with me because she accepted me, and I am a father of two children.
I love this girl so much. There is nothing that I refuse to give her if she needs it.
I grew up with my grandmother, and my grandmother loves her. Sometimes when I am at my grandmother’s house and she is with me and I rough her up, my grandmother quarrels. My grandmother is always telling me that I should get married to her. She is a yellowbone and, as you know, some older people like women who have, fair complexion.
This girl behaves as if she can’t ‘mash ants’, but I have come to understand that I shouldn’t trust her. Nobody has ever told me anything bad about her, but one day, I went to visit her. I went into her bedroom, and I saw a notebook. I decided that I would read it. I did not know that it was a notebook that she uses as her diary. I wasn’t thinking anything bad. She was cooking.
When I started to read, I was shocked. While I was dating her, she was having se_x with other men. Every time she had se_x with one of them, she made a note of it and wrote whether the se_x was good or bad.
In the three years we have been dating, she has had se_x with six different men. Out of the six, she has had se_x with one three times. She describes him as the best. She got money from all of them except the one she had se_x with three times.
I thought I was reading a love book. I could not wait until she finished cooking. I went into the kitchen with the notebook in my hand. When she saw me with the book, she asked me where I got it, and I asked her what was going on. She said that whatever I saw in the book should not bother me because she was done with those things.
The last time she had se_x with someone else was on Heroes day in the morning when I was at work. She told me that she was going to be home. She wrote in the book, “Good se_x, what a way to start a new day.” Every time we had se_x, she wrote it down. I wasn’t aware that she was doing these things. I can’t trust this girl anymore. We were planning to get married in July of this year. I told my grandmother that I have changed my mind. She wanted to know why. I told her that I will tell her very soon. I don’t want to hurt my grandmother. This girl tells me that she is not doing that anymore because I promised to marry her.
The father of her child is not supporting her; I took on that responsibility. I can’t even eat from her anymore. She even describes the size of the pen_is of one of thee guys. I go to church sometimes and whenever I go to church, I tell her what goes on at church. She said that she is not ready for church there. She says that when we get married, it will be different. I just feel that this girl is going to cheat on me, especially with the guy she loves so much.
Please tell me if I am wrong.