Dear Aunty Lisa
My girlfriend swears I was her first, but she did not bleed the first time I penetrated her vagi_na with my erect peni_s. Does this mean I was not her first?
No, not always. Some women will bleed after having se_x for the first time, while others will not. Both are perfectly normal.
A woman may bleed when she has penetrative se_x for the first time because of her hy_men stretching or tearing.
The hy_men is a thin piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagi_na. For some women, it may stretch or tear when they start having se_x.
Having a stretched or torn hy_men does not necessarily mean a woman has lost her virgi_nity.
The hy_men can also stretch or tear quite easily before a woman has se_x for the first time, through:
- activities such as horse riding and other sports
- using tamp0ns
A woman may not know her hy_men has stretched or torn, because it does not always cause pain or noticeable bleeding.
If you’re concerned about bleeding after se_x, get advice from a GP or your nearest se_xual health clinic.