Dear Aunty Lisa
I have been married for thirteen years, and during the last five years, I have been having an affair with one of my coworkers.
I have recently decided that I need to give my marriage one last effort without having my girlfriend on the side, and broke up with her. I have half way tried to make my marriage work in the past two years, but my girlfriend was always there if I needed her.
Well since I broke up with her three days ago, she has stated that she now has nothing to lose, and is going to ruin my life and my family, and she doesn’t care. She wants me to hurt as bad as her.
I am an extravert, and my wife is an introvert, and we have both been to marriage counseling and personal counseling, and we have just recently decided to go to joint/marriage counseling again, and I think that is good.
I am totally in fear of what my girlfriend will do, is she just talking cause she is mad or are her threats real?
I don’t want to tell my wife about the affair, because there would be no recovery from that with her, and I risk losing my kids (I think).