Dear Aunty Lisa
I’ve been living with my partner for five years and we love each other. We have two children and he wants to marry me. The problem is he doesn’t have money and feels that even if he starts saving now, by the time we get married one of our children will be finishing varsity and we will be getting ready for retirement.
I’ve been saving for years on my emergency fund and I’m tempted to help him pay lobola for me. But it feels like I’m marrying myself. I know if I lend him the money, he’ll pay me back. Is this a good or bad idea? Please help me make sense of this situation.