Dear Aunty Lisa
How are you aunty? I am troubled by my wife’s se_xual past.
I recently found out through a mutual friend who knew her before I met her that my wife was a very loose woman and had slept with several men in her hood.
We have pretty much told each other everything about our lives, and this part of my wife’s life has come as a shock to me as I had no idea.
I knew she liked to see musicians performing but didn’t know she had slept with them. A mutual friend joked that she probably spent more time in hotel rooms than in her own bedroom when she was younger. I don’t trust her any more, as this sounds to me like someone else, not my wife.
It’s all true, by the way – she did confess to it, but played it down. We have had some bad arguments about it. This has soured what was otherwise a good marriage. What should I do?