I have noticed that there are some women who are worried about not squir_ting during se_x while some of those who manage to do it get embarrassed at times as they feel it’s too much or they pee in their beds. This is one interesting topic and in this century it’s driving many crazy as they want to experience it too.
All that needs to be known is that squir_ting is not peeing but just female ejaculati0n. This happens when you get the va_jayjay stimulated in just the right way and get the free flow.
When it comes to female se_xuality, squirting also known as when fluid comes jetting out of a woman’s geni_tals, often with an accompanying 0rgasm, during se_x. Not every woman can s_quirt though, so if you don’t manage it, rest assured, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Squir_ting is something one can learn and master. Whether or not everyone with a vagin_a can s_quirt is less clear-cut. It is said that with the right technique, amount and type of penetration when it comes to female ejaculati0n, practice makes perfect. The force of this ejaculati0n depends on the strength of your pel_vic floor muscles, which will contract during 0rgasm or prior to squir_ting.
The big O and squir_ting can happen at the same time, but not always. While this all sounds fun and exciting, in some ways squir_ting is “just another performance hoop for women to have to jump through. Women often have one of two concerns about squir_ting:
Why can’t I do it, am I inadequate? or I think I’m wetting the bed during se_x.
Is that normal?
Both of these are somewhat mired in shame or anxiety, which become another barrier to experiencing free flow and pleasure.
No two people have the same va_jayjay and everyone’s big O differs. Unfortunately, because squir_ting is performative and somewhat quantifiable, it’s become a mark of se_xual superiority which frankly just sucks for anyone who doesn’t s_quirt easily or at all. Se_x should never be about feeling pressured to put on a show. It’s about the experience of the process, pleasure, connection and empowerment. Se_x can be for growing your se_xual self-esteem, releasing tension or bonding with a partner, not about performance.
Not everybody s_quirts! Though p0rn videos may make “female ejaculati0n” seem like a standard part of se_x, the truth is, squir_ting isn’t something that everyone experiences. No one must stress out about failing to s_quirt during se_x because rest assured there is nothing “wrong” with them at all.
Squir_ting is just a bodily function that some people can do and some people don’t do. It’s not whether it’s the ‘ability’ to be ‘able’ to do it, it’s a physiologic bodily function. Much like rolling your tongue, squir_ting during se_x is a physical thing that some bodies do and some don’t.
It is when parau_rethral glands, glands on the wall of the vagin_a and ure_thra that release fluid or swell during arousal. Every single body experiences 0rgasm and arousal in unique ways. It’s possible that not everyone has Ske_ne’s glands or not everyone’s Ske_ne’s glands fill with fluid to provide liquid for squir_ting.
Though some people may not have Ske_ne’s glands or have glands that produce liquid others may just not enjoy having their G-sp0t or Ske_ne’s glands stimulated and therefore do not want to be touched there.
What works for one person won’t work for another. Whereas some people may noticeably release a lot of fluids, others may produce less or minimal fluid.
The process behind producing squir_ting fluid is similar to the production of other bodily fluids like mucus, blood, and breast milk. Some people are over-producers, some people are under-producers and for those that do, there are different variations of how much fluid they might ejacu_late or s_quirt. As all bodies are different, there is no standard way or amount to produce bodily fluids.
Just as some people produce more mucus some bodies are built to produce more squir_ting fluids.There are so many variables involved when it comes to se_xual expression and enjoyment. Sometimes, when women are se_xually aroused or stimulated, there is an expulsion of fluid from the glands around the ure_thra during or before 0rgasm.
Some women have reported squir_ting after giving blowj0bs or having their ni_pples sucked so se_xual expression and enjoyment come in all shapes and sizes. Because se_x and se_xuality can be so heavily impacted by cultural, religious and societal norms it can be difficult to separate what causes bodily functions like squir_ting from the emotional aspect of se_x what someone is into or what turns them on.
While you may already know that you like to s_quirt or that you would like to do it, you must listen to your body and find out what works for you. Being ‘unable’ to do something se_xually doesn’t make you a failure or worse off than others. Focus on what your body can do, not what it can’t. Though you may want to try to learn how to s_quirt, you never need to feel shame for not being able to s_quirt or pressure to try to force it.
Squir_ting does not dictate if someone is normal. Bodies are set up to experience se_xual interc0urse and inti_macy in different ways, and female ejaculati0n [or lack there of] doesn’t take away from that inti_macy. As everyone’s body experiences arousal differently and even your own body changes over time — there is no one reason why someone may or may not be able to s_quirt during se_x, all that matter is what feels good for you.
If you are able to s_quirt, more power to you. And if you are curious, there’s no harm in trying it out. The bottom line to remember is that (like other aspects of se_x) female ejaculati0n isn’t just a matter of pushing a button and waiting for the floodgates to open so don’t be discouraged if you come up dry.
— Nhlalwenhle Ncube