Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am a troubled Zimbabwean girl seeking your advice. I am in a relationship with a guy who has been pressuring me to slǝǝp with him. He has even gone to the extent of threatening to break up with me if I don’t give in to his demands.
I am really confused and don’t know what to do. I l0ve him and don’t want to lose him, but at the same time, I don’t want to do something that I am not comfortable with.
Please advise me on what to do. I am really scared and don’t know where to turn.
Thank you for your help.
A Troubled Zimbabwean Girl
Aunty Lisa responds:
I am sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time in your relati0nship. It is never okay for someone to pressure or threaten you into doing something that you are not comfortable with, especially when it comes to ƨǝxuɑl activity.
Your body belongs to you, and you have the right to make your own choices about when and with whom you engage in ƨǝxuɑl activity. If your b0yfriend is not willing to respect your boundaries and wishes, then he is not someone who truly cares about you or your well-being.
I understand that you l0ve him and don’t want to lose him, but it is important to remember that a healthy relati0nship is built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. If your b0yfriend is not willing to listen to your concerns and respect your boundaries, then he is not someone who is worth your time or energy.
I encourage you to have an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings and how his actions are affecting you. If he is not willing to listen or change his behaviour, then it may be time to reevaluate whether this relati0nship is truly the best thing for you.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who treats you with l0ve, respect, and kindness. Don’t settle for anything less.