Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am really confused about something that I recently witnessed and I need your help in making a decision. I cɑught my mother in bǝd with her b0yfriend who is not my dɑd.
I don’t know exactly how to react and if I should tell my dad about it. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s relɑtionship or create unnecessary drama but I am also worried about the consequences of keeping it a secret. Can you please give me some advice on what to do?
Aunty Lisa responds:
Thank you for reaching out to me. I can imagine how difficult it must be for you to deal with such a situation. Before making any decision, it’s important to evaluate the reasons behind your actions. What outcome are you hoping for by sharing this information with your dad?
Your parents’ relɑtionship is their responsibility and they alone can decide what’s best for them. Telling your dad about his partner’s infidǝlity may not be the most constructive action to take. It could end up causing more pain and frustration in the family.
Perhaps, you should focus on talking to your mom instead. Let her know how the situation made you feel and encourage her to be honest with your dad. Give her an opportunity to come clean and discuss the way forward as a family.
Remember to keep in mind that you don’t have to bear the burden of secrecy alone. Speak to someone you trust, like a close friend or a therapist to help you process the experience and gain better clarity on the way forward.