Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am writing to seek your advice on a very delicate issue that has left me feeling heartbroken and betrayed.
I recently caught my husband having ƨǝx with our maid, and I am not sure how to handle the situation. We have been mɑrried for 10 years and have two children together. I am devastated and don’t know what to do. Please advise me on how to handle this situation.
Aunty Lisa Responds:
Dear Heartbroken Wife,
I am sorry to hear about your situation. Infidelity can be a traumatic experience, and it is understandable that you are feeling hurt and betrayed. It is important to remember that this is not your fault, and you are not alone. Many couples go through this experience, and it is possible to overcome it with time and effort.
The first step is to take some time to process your emotions and thoughts. It is essential to give yourself time to heal and reflect on what you want to do next. You need to decide whether you want to stay in the mɑrriɑgǝ or leave. If you choose to stay, you and your husband need to work through the issue together. This will require honesty, openness, and a willingness to change. Couples counselling may also be helpful in rebuilding trust and communication.
It is also important to remember that your maid is a victim in this situation. She may be in a vulnerable position and may need support and protection. You may want to consider providing her with financial assistance and helping her find a new job and a safe place to stay.
In conclusion, infidǝlity is a challenging issue to deal with, but it is possible to overcome it. Take your time to process your emotions, seek counselling, and work with your husband to rebuild your relɑtionship. Remember that forgiveness and healing take time, and it is okay to seek support from family, friends, or a therapist.