Hubby is pressuring me to abandon my Christian faith & join him in attending traditional ceremonies


Dear Aunty Lisa,

I am writing to you in a state of distress and confusion. My husband has been putting immense pressure on me to abandon my Christian faith and join him in attending traditional ceremonies and consulting with traditional healers.

I have always been a devoted Christian, finding great comfort and meaning in my faith. However, my husband strongly believes in traditional African spirituality and has been insisting that I need to embrace this aspect of our cultural heritage. He has become increasingly controlling, forbidding me from attending church services and threatening me whenever I express a desire to continue practicing my religion.

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I am deeply troubled by this situation, as I feel torn between honouring my husband’s wishes and remaining true to my own deeply held beliefs. I fear that if I give in to his demands, I will be betraying my relationship with God and the values that have guided me throughout my life.

At the same time, I am concerned about the potential consequences of defying my husband’s wishes. He has become angry and volatile whenever I resist, and I worry that my refusal to participate in the traditional ceremonies could lead to further conflict and even violence within our home.

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I am at a loss as to how to navigate this delicate situation. I feel trapped, unsure of which path to choose. Please, Aunty Lisa, I desperately need your guidance and wisdom. I know that you have always been a source of comfort and support, and I am hoping that you can offer me some advice on how to handle this challenging situation.

Thank you in advance for your time and consideration.


A Troubled Woman

Aunty Lisa Responds:

Dear Troubled Woman,

I can only imagine the immense emotional turmoil you must be experiencing right now. Navigating the conflicting beliefs and demands within a marriage is never an easy task, but I want you to know that you are not alone.

First and foremost, I want to reassure you that your Christian faith is a sacred and precious part of who you are. Your relationship with God should not be compromised, nor should you ever feel pressured to abandon it. Your spiritual well-being is of utmost importance, and you have every right to continue practicing your religion without fear or judgment.

However, it is also crucial that you approach this situation with wisdom and sensitivity. Your husband’s beliefs and cultural traditions are important to him, and dismissing or disrespecting them could further strain your relationship. I would encourage you to have an open and honest dialogue with him, not from a place of confrontation, but from a place of understanding and compromise.

Perhaps you could suggest that you both attend each other’s religious ceremonies and practices, with the understanding that you will respect his traditions, and he will respect yours. This could be an opportunity to bridge the gap between your beliefs and find a way to coexist peacefully.

If your husband remains unwilling to compromise or becomes abusive, I would urge you to seek support from your church community, trusted friends or family, or even local authorities if necessary. Your safety and well-being should be the top priority.

Remember, my dear, that you are a strong and resilient woman, deeply rooted in your faith. With patience, compassion, and wisdom, I believe you can navigate this challenging situation and find a way to honor both your spiritual beliefs and your marriage.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please do not hesitate to reach out to me again if you need further guidance or support.


Aunty Lisa

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