Should I marry the b0yfriend who drinks and smokes, or the one who doesn’t?

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Dear Aunty Lisa,

I hope this letter finds you well. I’m facing a dilemma in my l0ve life and I desperately need your guidance and advice. You have always been a trusted confidante, and I believe your insight can help me make a crucial decision.

Here’s my situation: I am currently in a relɑtionship with two wonderful men. Let’s call them John and Mark. They both have their unique qualities, but there’s a significant difference between them when it comes to their lifestyle choices.

John, my first b0yfriend, enjoys smoking and drinking beer. While I appreciate his other qualities, I have concerns about the long-term effects of these habits on his health and our potential future together.

On the other hand, Mark, my second b0yfriend, neither smokes nor drinks. He leads a healthier lifestyle, which aligns more closely with my own preferences and values.

Now, as I contemplate the idea of mɑrriage, I find myself torn between these two individuals. I understand that a successful mɑrriage requires compatibility and shared values. I want to build a future with someone who will be a positive influence in my life and with whom I can grow and thrive.

Aunty Lisa, considering these circumstances, I would greatly appreciate your wisdom and advice. What factors should I prioritize when making this decision? How important are lifestyle choices in the long run? What other aspects should I consider before taking the next step?

Thank you so much for your time, Aunty Lisa. Your guidance means the world to me, and I trust your judgment.

With sincere gratitude,



Dear Mariah

Thank you for reaching out and entrusting me with your concerns. I understand that choosing a life partner is a significant decision, and it’s important to carefully consider various factors before moving forward.

When it comes to lifestyle choices, it’s essential to evaluate how they align with your own values and long-term aspirations. Reflect on your own preferences and the kind of future you envision for yourself. Consider the potential impact of smoking and drinking habits on both your partner’s health and the dynamics of your relɑtionship.

While lifestyle choices are significant, it’s equally important to assess compatibility, communication, shared values, and emotional connection with both John and Mark. Evaluate their qualities, including their supportiveness, understanding, and how well they align with your personal goals and values beyond smoking and drinking habits.

Open and honest communication is key. Have heartfelt conversations with each of them, expressing your concerns and discussing your expectations for the future. Pay attention to their responses, willingness to compromise, and their commitment to personal growth.

Ultimately, trust your instincts and choose the partner who not only shares your values but also demonstrates the potential for a strong and healthy relɑtionship. Remember, mɑrriage is a lifelong commitment, and it’s crucial to enter into it with a partner who will be your source of l0ve, support, and happiness.

Wishing you clarity and happiness in your decision-making process.

With warm regards,

Aunty Lisa

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