Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am a troubled young woman seeking advice on a very sensitive issue. My church pastor has been pestering me for ƨǝx, and it is making me very uncomfortable. I feel violated and disrespected, and I don’t know what to do. I am torn between keeping quiet and exposing him.
I am very active in my church, and I have been a member for many years. I have always looked up to my pastor and trusted him, but now I feel betrayed. I don’t know how to deal with this situation, and I am afraid that if I speak out, I may face backlash from the church community.
Please advise me on what to do. I need your help desperately.
Troubled Young Woman
Aunty Lisa responds:
Dear Troubled Young Woman,
I am very sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself in. It is never easy to be in a position where someone you trust and respect violates your boundaries.
Your safety and well-being should always be your top priority, and you should not feel pressured to keep this situation quiet.
It is important to remember that you are not alone in this, and you should not feel ashamed or guilty about what has happened. You have the right to speak out and take action to protect yourself.
I would advise you to seek help from a trusted friend, family member, or professional counsellor who can offer you support and assistance. It is also important to document any evidence you may have, such as text messages or emails from your pastor.
You may also want to consider reporting this matter to the church authorities or the police, depending on the severity of the situation. Exposing your pastor may be a difficult decision, but it could prevent other women from being victimized.
Remember that you are not to blame for what has happened, and you deserve justice and respect. Do not be afraid to speak up for yourself and seek help when you need it.
Take care of yourself,