Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am in a complicated situation that I really need some advice on. I’ve been having a secret ɑffɑir with my ex-wife, who is currently mɑrried to someone else. We were mɑrried for 5 years before we got div0rced due to some differences that we couldn’t reconcile. However, we remained friends and have always kept in touch.
Recently, we started seeing each other again and the spark between us reignited. We both know that what we’re doing is wrong, but we can’t seem to help ourselves. I don’t want to break up her mɑrriɑge, but I can’t help the way I feel ɑbout her.
I know that I should stop this ɑffɑir, but it’s easier said than done. I really care about my ex-wife and I don’t want to hurt her or anyone else in this situation.
What should I do?
Confused and Guilty
Aunty Lisa responds:
Dear Confused and Guilty,
Thank you for reaching out to me for advice. It sounds like you are in a difficult and emotionally charged situation.
First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that what you are doing is not only morally wrong but also illegal. Having an ɑffɑir with someone who is mɑrried can cause a great deal of pain and suffering for all parties involved, including yourself.
It’s understandable that you still have fǝǝlings for your ex-wife, but you must remember that she is currently mɑrried to someone else. You are putting her and her family at risk by having this ɑffɑir, and it’s not fair to anyone involved.
The best thing you can do is to end the ɑffɑir immediately. It may be difficult, but it’s the right thing to do. You need to take responsibility for your actions and move on from this situation.
I suggest seeking professional help to deal with your emotions and to work through the pain and guilt that you are feeling. Talking to a therapist or counsellor can help you gain clarity and perspective on your situation.
Remember that you have the power to make the right choices. Choose to do what is right and ethical, even if it’s not the easy choice.
Best of luck to you,