My b0yfriend always makes jokes about my weight. What should I do?

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Dear Aunty Lisa

I am a 32-year-old woman and for the past 10 years I’ve been in a relati0nship with a man 10 years older. I was much thinner when we first met and have since gained a little weight. My partner has started calling me fat, often pointing out that my h1ps are growing wider, that I eat too much, have a double chin, my stomach is flabby and so on.

When we met I was very conscious of my weight and I had low self-esteem about my looks. There was nothing wrong with my eating; I just weighed a bit less than the average. My partner encouraged me to have a more positive view, and it helped with my self-confidence.

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But since I started gaining weight a couple of years ago, he has been increasingly negative. I have told him it does not help that he calls me fat. He says he is not being disparaging, but wants to encourage me to exercise, lead a healthy lifestyle and eat moderately. He says I will be the one to suffer if I become fat because it will have an impact on my self-esteem and I will let myself go “like ugly middle-aged women with big thighs” (and I would not want to end up like that, would I?). He thinks he is telling me for my own sake as it will be bad for my mental health if I think I am fat.

I think my current weight is OK, and that I eat healthily. I could exercise more, but my partner insists I do so every day to keep fit (otherwise I am lazy). I have asked him to stop commenting on my weight, and sometimes he does for a while, but then starts again.  The whole situation is making me feel bad about myself.

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